Every post deserves an introduction. However, I think this one pretty much introduce itself in the title. 5 Things Your Children will Never Notice or Care About.
1.Your kids are never going to notice how “fat” you are. This is a huge deal to women. It hits me hard. We are always feeling like we are being judged. Like we do not have the right clothes on or that we are not as skinny as the Jones’s. Well, your kids are never going to notice how fat you are. What they are going to see is how much you love them. How much time you spend with them. Playing and interacting. Teaching them the ins and outs of the world to the best of your ability. They do not care if you weigh 110 pounds or if you weigh 250 pounds. They do care about your attention and about you being there for them. So, stop worrying about how fat you look standing next to your child’s best friend’s mom and just focus on why you are here. You are here for them, make them smile by showing up.
2. Your kids do not care how much money you make. It is not about the amount of money. I know we all want our kids to have everything that we never did. Or everything they want because we feel some form of failure because of something that happened. Mine was my divorce. My divorce was warranted and happened for the right reasons. It also happened 2 months before Christmas. I did not have the money to buy the gifts my kids saw on TV. I was buying the B1G1 toys from Walgreens every 2 weeks after I got paid because I could get 4 toys for $20-$30. This absolutely killed me inside to not be able to get the toys they wanted. Christmas morning came and I was a wreck. I was crying and just couldn’t believe how much I felt like I failed them. My kids came out and were so excited that Santa came even though we had just moved into our apartment (they were a little worried about him not being able to find us 🙂 ). They torn open the gifts and thanked me for each one as they did it. They did not complain about what they didn’t get. My tears of failure turned into tears of happiness and gratefulness for my children. They brought this amazing glow that morning that I was so afraid was gone. We spent that morning playing with all their new toys. It was perfect. Moral of the story, money’s not everything. They do not care how much you make a year. They do care about what you do with them. That being a hard financial time in my life, my kids were still there and still looked up to me. Money or no money. Be there to play with them.
3. Your kids do not care what brand of clothes you wear. This is another one that hit me pretty good. Being a stay at home mom I do not do my makeup every day. I don’t style my hair. And quite honestly I live in my yoga pants. Any time we are getting ready to head out the door, whether it is a school function or just over to a family member’s house for dinner my daughter is always telling me how fine I look and to stop wearing the makeup because no one cares. You know what? No one does care. I care, for very stupid reasons. I care. The reasoning for this is because of the judgement we pass on to other women and moms we meet in our lives. Instead of building each mother up to help them be the best that they can be, we just tear each other down. Always trying to one up the other moms. Well, your kids do not care about your internal competition with so-so’s mom. They care that you showed up to that spelling bee or basketball game. They care that you sat out in the freezing rain to watch them play football. That is what they will brag about to their friends. How great of a mom you were and how much you supported them. Not how you missed their recital because you needed to get your hair re done and a manicure before you saw the other moms. I am not saying that every mom deserves to be pampered because we do. We busts our butts for our family, however there is a time and a place where that matters. Missing an important event in your child’s life is not the time.
4. Your kids are never going to notice how clean the house is. Or how long it took you to clean it. Here’s a wake up call coming from a clean freak & Norwex Consultant….Your house will NEVER be clean while you still have kids living at home. Give up! Now, I am not saying to let your home turn into a dump but instead of staying in on that beautiful day to clean, go outside with them. Take them to the park or the zoo. The dishes and dirty floors will still be there once they go to sleep. Hell, they will even be there the next day! Don’t waste every minute of your day trying to keep your house spotless. Your kids do not care that the house is clean and the floors are waxed. They do care about the fact you played catch with them or took them to the batting cages. Don’t forget to stop and cherish your time with your kids. Before you know it they will be gone and you will be regretting your time that you lost.
5. Your kids do not care about what is on your phone or the latest on Facebook. PUT THE PHONE DOWN!! Seriously, we wonder why kids do nothing but play video games and tablets all day long it’s because they either see us doing it or we are doing it so they need to find something else to do. Stop letting the social media world run your life. Play a card or board game with your kids. Interact with them. They really don’t care about your social media world and frankly are probably disgusted with the fact that your phone comes before interacting with them. Just put the damn thing down and enjoy your family.
Based off from these points we just all need to remember that we need to be there for our kids. We need to interact with them. Teach them the ins and outs and right and wrong. Children are not materialistic unless we raise them that way. Show your children the value of love, support, and connection by playing that board game or sitting in the rain to watch their game. They need you more than you need any of the items listed above. Be the best mom you can be for them!